Love is not just something we do, it is who we are. It is both our birthright and our purpose. Love is a place we inhabit, a modus operandi, the lens through which we view ourselves, a place from which we relate to each other and the world. It is not predicated on romance or the lack thereof, although romantic love sure is sweet...but you don't have to be in love to be of love. When we are of Love, the more we give, the more full we become; the more open we are to it and its principles, the more we receive it. What else works this way? Lovingness is a state of being, and choosing it is a decision: every situation that presents itself can be met with lovingness or its absence, even the challenging ones. If you hate something, that hate is a blight upon your own heart where only light should be, if you are angry at someone, that anger stays in your gut and you have the stomach ache, not them. Of course this takes practice and isn't easy- it requires a paradigm shift. But when we remain in a state of lovingness, we soften, open, lighten and feel everything more deeply...it changes us into one who forgives more, fears less, feels more joy and accepts more easily. It doesn't mean we don't have real things to deal with, it means that we deal with them more clearly and less self-destructively. What if we greeted our day and everyone in it with a loving heart? Even the people who are problems? It doesn't make them go way, but that cloud of light surrounding us softens the focus we have on them and allows us to create a better distance between ourselves and them. This helps us to accept them as they are and assign them less meaning, maybe even bless and release them. The result? It leaves more room in our thoughts and our heart for those that bring us real joy, true love, deep meaning and make us whole.